Reading-group guide

Questions for teams, book clubs and readers on their own.

Sixteen questions to accompany Becoming More, arranged by the four parts of the book.

About the book

How to use it

One part at a time works best.

These questions are meant to start a conversation, not to test anyone. For a team, take one part per session. For a book club, choose two questions from each part. Reading alone, write your answers down.

Finish each session the same way: one thing each person will do before you next meet.

Part I

The Inner Work of Becoming

  1. When have you felt unseen, underestimated or overlooked? What did you do with that feeling?
  2. Which limits on you were inherited, which came from experience, and which have you placed on yourself?
  3. What would the people who know you best say your character is like under pressure?
  4. What is one belief about your own ability that you have never properly tested?

Part II

Leading People with Humanity

  1. Think of the best leader you have worked for. What did they do that made you better?
  2. Where are you being vague when you should be clear? What is that vagueness protecting?
  3. Who has grown while working with you? Who has not, and why?
  4. How do you hold high standards without making people afraid to tell you the truth?

Part III

Visibility, Courage and Responsibility

  1. Where are you staying quiet when your voice would help?
  2. What is the difference, for you, between being visible and promoting yourself?
  3. Who opened a door for you early on? Have you told them what it led to?
  4. Whose name could you put forward this month for something they would not put themselves forward for?

Part IV

Becoming More

  1. What does “more” mean for you now, and how has that changed over the years?
  2. What is one system around you that makes good work harder than it should be? What could you change?
  3. Who are you helping to become more? What would they say you have done for them?
  4. What will you do differently in the next thirty days as a result of this book?

Bring Ayo into the room

Reading the book as a team or network?

Ayo is glad to join reading groups, team sessions and employee networks to talk through the ideas, in person or online.

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